Seven steps how to teach your child to listen and obey
Seven steps how to teach your child to listen and obey
In a world where there is so little love, family – a quiet Marina, saving oasis, where people can wait out the storms and care. Who else to love, not as the most people close to us – children, relatives?
Parents in most cases, love children more than the children’s parents. And expectation of the huge children’s love – the real selfishness.
Those who love children, know that they can give us much more joy and happiness than we them. We should be grateful that we have them.
The main task of parents is to give the child the best clothes, food and toys, and to form him.
WE NEED TO EDUCATE CHILDREN BY THE EXAMPLE OF HIS LIFE.
Your example, your parents, your behavior is beyond words and counsel acting for young hearts… do Not tell your child the truth, and he would be ashamed of lies. If blame him for the sharpness of reproach and cruelty of words, and a minute before that was making rude reprimand, then you beat the air. If you want your children to like good, show cases, what is good is worthy of love.
Instructions of the other act on the mind, and his mother’s admonitions to heart.
You want your children to be obedient, show and prove his love to them – is not the love that snaivet child and is ready to feed him lots of sweets, and heartfelt, intelligent love, designed to benefit children.
The love of a child must be reasonable and sighted. All pandering to and appeasing him, we will destroy it in a moral sense, corrupt his heart, will condemn them in the future to loneliness and alienation from the people.
Elaboration of obedience of children – one of the most important (major ) problems of pedagogy. Obedience is manifested only in those cases where the child is to do something interesting and do not want – and you say that it should.
Encourage your child to listen and obey
The simplest algorithm that can help you with this – “Seven steps”.
Step 1. Encourage your child to complete your assignments, starting with the fact that he likes to do everything myself. For example, Nikita loves to clap. «As Nikita claps? – Smart, Nikita! And now, Nikita, show how buzzing machine! ” Wonderful!” – so you taught him to listen to you and do what you say.
Step 2. Encourage your child to fulfill your requests. If you call him, he needs to come to you. Start with situations where the baby and are so happy to come running to you, and you to him or lint will give, to cuddle her and, a Pat on the or at least a minute to play with him. Make come on demand. If you do not want, kindly tell me: “When Mama calls, you must come at once!” – and kiss!
Step 3. Make your case, not responding to a child – in those cases, when in the right you believe yourself and know that you will support other members of the family. For example, you all take your time on the train, collect things. In this case, the whims of the child: “Come play with me!” will be easily ignored by everyone, including grandmothers. Encourage your child to what is important to do. If you sit down in front of him and, looking into his eyes, calmly and firmly say: “Adults now need to get together and we play with you later. This is important!” – he will understand you.
Step 4 . Require a minimum, but when you support all family members. The baby is already big enough to… not to take away a toy from another child, to raise the fallen mitten yourself, put the porridge in your mouth yourself… Always look for those moments when your requirements will be supported by all others.
Step 5. Confidently give job. Let the child do what he will be able to perform.
Make sure that he always had a set of things to do. To make the bed, take to the kitchen the Cup, wash the dishes, run to the store – most likely, you all this is easier to do it yourself, but you – the teacher, therefore, your task is to keep yourself and every time, to entrust this child.
Step 6. Encourage the child to perform more difficult and independent assignments.
Step 7. Obtain that done, and then he came and showed the result.
When a child to learn and that you can be proud of – before you have a grown man.
The age at which the algorithm “Seven steps” works best – from 2 to 12 years. After 12 years, the child should already be your friend and you are helping him the best way to solve the it problems of life.
Discipline in different periods of life
Children can’t love and respect their parents, when they’re weak and indecisive. In this case, they begin to manipulate them without compunction. Such a relationship will be for your children, and they will try to walk all over you and manipulate everyone with whom you cross paths in their lives. Undisciplined, irresponsible, rude, ill-mannered… do You personally feel sympathy for these people? Discipline, softened by love, it teaches children to adapt their behaviour to the demands of society. So let’s teach our children.
Direct the energy of a child on useful and interesting things. Not one to ignore good behaviour and to draw the child’s attention only when he is behaving incorrectly. In this case, you will force him to behave badly, to attract at least negative, but attention beloved parents.
From 6 to 12 years are advised to use the iron law of cause and effect. If completed, you can go for a walk. If your lessons, you can watch a movie. Meanwhile, fun – an hour. Good discipline is not weakness, but strength; not indulgence yourself, and responsibility. And most importantly, she creates a character, characterized by the ability to love and to sacrifice their selfish interests.
COMMANDMENTS FOR PARENTS
Love your child!
Don’t expect your child to be like you, or like you want. Help him become not you, but themselves.
Do not ask the child to pay for everything you do for him: you gave him life, how can he repay you? He will give life to another, one – third: it is the law of gratitude.
Don’t take it out on the child’s thoughts, so that in old age not to eat the bitter bread, for as you sow, so shall you reap.
Do not take the problems of the child down the burden of life is given to everyone on forces, and for sure he his no less heavy than your you.
Don’t torture yourself, if you can’t something be done for their child. Distressed, if you can to do something and not do.
Learn to love someone else’s child would never do that stranger that do not wish to see others have done it your way.
Love your baby any: untalented, unsuccessful, adults. Talking to him, rejoice, because the child is a holiday, which is still with you.
Teach your child to be friendly and benevolent. Let his mouth will be sewn to any scandal. If you see that he scolds someone make him shut up and translate it to his own misconduct.
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