Some people believe that the daughter is closer to her mother, and the son – to the father, and if for a boy of no family history of Pope – this is a serious problem, we need girls in the father seems not as sharp. Yes, indeed psychologists know that girls very early start to identify with the mother. Throughout their childhood, they, without knowing it, equal to the mother, imitating her voice, intonation, manners and tastes. But from that little girl feels with her mother as a single organism, the father appears to her a completely different personality and therefore are especially remarkable.
Dad is no more interesting and different, not like mom. In their games with my dad baby gets the experience of communicating with a person of the other sex, in her mind fixed idea about the difference between a man and a woman. Finding this difference as something positive and joyful, the girl alleged in her femininity, based on opposites, unlike imitation mother.
The presence of the father in her daughter’s life is very important since the appearance of the girls at the light. This obviously affects their relationship in the future. In any case, the mother ceases to be the centre around which is organized the whole family life. Until recently, psychologists believed that the father begins to have meaning for girls older than three years when they awakened Continue reading
Ukraine continues to maintain the course to as many orphans and children who cannot (or will not) raise a native dads and moms, grew up in families. Not all kids are adopted, and sometimes it is impossible, as though the child and surrendered to the state, but birth parents haven’t abandoned it — went missing, in prison. Often adoptive parents ignore the “children” and those who are already in its infancy. For these and many other children there are orphanages of family type and foster families. They differ from each other by the number of children and the fact that the foster family does not need to create the “necessary conditions for living and education”: all this should already be present. This year in Crimea were a lot of candidates in adoptive parents.
Education as work…
Many people confuse adoption with foster families: apparently, our mentality does not allow to perceive parenting as a job. But the relationship of adoptive mothers and fathers with government such: they are paid a salary, according to the Cabinet, because they take a child into their family, which is otherwise forced to live in a state orphanage.
As told to “1K” the chief of Department on Affairs of minors of the Ministry of youth, family and gender policy of the Crimea Yuri Tulayev, only this year Continue reading
Striving to be perfect parents, we are ready for more. As shown by the theory and practice of psychology, the most important thing in dealing with a child — is to try to understand him. But that’s exactly what we get is the worst. Why the baby does? Why our words or actions, he responds in some strange, unknown to us?
Why his behavior is so annoying to us. How to communicate with the child? We are looking for a versatile means of communication that could be applied in any situation. Such principles, of course, exist, but to use them, we need to know better than the child, and himself.
The principles of interaction
1. Fewer inhibitions!
Sometimes it seems that the main words of parents, by which they communicate with the child, are “need” and “impossible”. To understand what a child feels when he is ordered, it is enough to remember, as we react to the word “need”.
– Do it to us?
– we would Like to hear it?
– What emotions it evokes in us the word?
If you don’t like, why should please your child? Unless he’s a soldier, to follow orders, which, as is well known, are not discussed? He is quite able to understand your explanations, of course, given the age and more than once, especially if you try to explain to him, focusing on his own desires.
“Impossible” Continue reading