A tale about fear. When working with children streamingly I was afraid of dogs. and cats, cockroaches, moths, grasshoppers, snakes and darkness.
It is very unpleasant to be afraid of something. And I was so scared, not even at night I closed my eyes and tried not to blink, that was not dark. Yeah you know how terrible it is to be afraid. Not only that, with fear you run goosebumps and feel like in your throat dries up, so still need to pretend to anybody about your fear of not guessed, because it would be laughed at! And laughed. And how they laughed at me! And friends, older brothers and sisters, and parents, and most worryingly, it seemed that even these boogers and dog in the doorway giggling and winks, looking at me.
But now it’s all in the past. I calmly remain in an empty dark room, friends with cats and dogs, in General, feel confident in the outside world. How did I do it? Now to tell you a secret.
One day I met a clown. Yes, for real. I was with my parents in the circus. In the arena of clowning clown. I don’t like the circus – during the presentation, it’s dark and a lot of creatures. But this clown has interested me. He invited all who want to write their wishes on a piece of paper, at the bottom put your name and folded the note Continue reading
Why toddlers are greedy and that we as parents can do to ensure that the child grew up in an open and kind person.
What we call greed, from time to time manifests itself in almost every small child: not shared yummy candy with my brother, not given to other children in the yard to play with his new machine. But in children this quality is not constant, it is not peculiar to the nature of the child and is not born with him. Most often greed manifests itself in a certain situation occurs and for any reason. And sometimes we adults just confuse greed with other manifestations of the child’s life.
Kids love all the beautiful, bright, unusual and involuntarily drawn to him. The little tot the owner of the gorgeous new toys – I do not want to part with it for a minute, and this is understandable. He holds her to his and jealously guards from other children. Well, if the hidden object does not belong to him, what he was trying to seduce him. When you can’t bitterly crying, screaming or throwing a tantrum But all this is far from true greed, it’s just the baby it is hard at this age to voluntarily give someone something that is so like him. After three years, when a child learns to build relationships with their peers, sometimes he starts to make Continue reading
Striving to be perfect parents, we are ready for more. As shown by the theory and practice of psychology, the most important thing in dealing with a child — is to try to understand him. But that’s exactly what we get is the worst. Why the baby does? Why our words or actions, he responds in some strange, unknown to us?
Why his behavior is so annoying to us. How to communicate with the child? We are looking for a versatile means of communication that could be applied in any situation. Such principles, of course, exist, but to use them, we need to know better than the child, and himself.
The principles of interaction
1. Fewer inhibitions!
Sometimes it seems that the main words of parents, by which they communicate with the child, are “need” and “impossible”. To understand what a child feels when he is ordered, it is enough to remember, as we react to the word “need”.
– Do it to us?
– we would Like to hear it?
– What emotions it evokes in us the word?
If you don’t like, why should please your child? Unless he’s a soldier, to follow orders, which, as is well known, are not discussed? He is quite able to understand your explanations, of course, given the age and more than once, especially if you try to explain to him, focusing on his own desires.
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